Tuesday, February 25, 2014

My Preaching : Mariage made in heaven

TEXT : Gen 2:18- Gen 2:25  

- Is there such a thing as “marriage made in heaven” nowadays or is this just another wishful thinking of some hopeless romantic? God created marriage to be "’til death do us part". But what do we do when "for better or worse" gets worse? What do we do when things get so bad it doesn’t look like we’re ever going to get from worse to better? Many people have different ideas about marriage…some say that getting married is just like committing suicide, others say it’s like picking up a stone and then smashing it on your head.
- Sleeping Beauty
- Consulting an architect in building our very costly dream house…If you are planning to build a house that will cost you millions of pesos, well the most practical way to do is to consult an architect for the design of your house and hire a licensed civil engineer to estimate the amount of money you will spend on materials and labor. You even have to consult the expertise of an electrical engineer, a professional plumber, an expert foreman to oversight the project so that you will get the right results of your planned house. It’s the same with marriage. You have to have the right idea on how to build it, the right blueprint of marriage to work it out and last until death parts both partners. There’s no other perfect idea about marriage than to look at God’s perspective through His word and apply it in your life: THE BIBLICAL IDEA OF MARRIAGE

  1. MARRIAGE WAS GOD’S IDEA. – He created male & female to be part of that divine institution called marriage.
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” (Gen. 1:27)

Genesis 1 declares the fact of man’s creation while Genesis 2 reveals the process by which this occurred. God made male and female for his own good purposes. The creation of two kinds of people - man and woman - was not meant to be a put-down for women or to thwart the ambitions of the women’s liberation movement. Men and women are equally important and are complementary to each other in God’s design. The creation of woman became a testimonial (A statement of declaration) that creation was incomplete without her. Think how colorless, how one-dimensional a world it would be if there was only you in it! Can you imagine living in an all-male world or an all-female world? You need to see and rejoice in the fundamental differences between male and female in order to enjoy the goodness God planned for you in marriage.
“The person who does not marry will miss one of the greatest gifts of God for humanity next to the free gift of salvation.”

- The classical Greek philosopher SOCRATES said “by all means marry, because if you get a good wife, you will become happy. If you will get a bad one, you will become a philosopher and that is also good

Illustration: An Insurance company released a study that shows the impact of marriage in one’s life…
Insurance Statistics of death rate per 1000

Age                                   married                                 single
25-34                             1.5 death/1000                      3.5 death/1000
35-44                             3.1 death/1000                      8.3 death/1000
For single women: twice as the death rate over the married one

Their conclusion: “It’s better to be wed than be deal.”

“And the Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone …………..” (Gen.2:18-22)
- The first problem of humanity was not economic or political not even religion, not even sin. It’s the problem of loneliness. I could just imagine the state where Adam was. With all of God’s creation surrounding him, with all the trees, animals, fishes and birds, a PERFECT invironment, a PARADISE…and yet it seemed that something’s lacking. With all the intellect he had, even naming every kinds of birds, animal and plants…and yet still God saw Adam’s heart…he’s longing to be like those couples of Giraffes, lions, monkeys…etc. When God creates it must be good and yet this is the first time God said, it is not GOOD! It is not good for a man to be alone…

Illustration: The Youngman who does not want to do anything
QUOTE 1: “The trouble is not that I am single and likely to stay single, but that I am lonely and likely to stay lonely.” ― Charlotte Brontë
“HAPPINESS [is] ONLY REAL WHEN SHARED” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild

“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man” (Gen. 2:23).

-The problem with humanity after the fall was the distorted view that we have about marriage. With all the broken homes and broken marriages that we have now, people are trying to take marriage lightly and even make a laughing stock out of it. After the fall, the problem of staying in love became the greatest challenge of every marriage relationship. LOOK AT THE CONTROVERSIAL MARRIAGE DIVORCE AND ANNULMENT CASES OF OUR MOVIE STARS: i.e. Claudine and Raymart…
One of the reasons why marriages fail is the absence of romance in that marriage. The element of romance was evidently absent in every failed marriage. 

Illustration: Even one of the most famous man in Britain recognize the joy of getting married and said:
- The Butete Case
- The sweet young couple when walking, eating, doing some antics…
“Therefore shall a man LEAVE his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh” (Gen. 2:24)

In this three-part commandment at the beginning, God ordained the institution of marriage.

Marriage begins with a LEAVING: Leaving all other relationships. The closest relationship outside marriage is specified here, implying that if it is necessary to leave your father and mother, then certainly all lesser ties must be broken, changed, or left behind.

Leaving our parents does not mean to abandon them; it does not mean to leave them in the street. The bonds of love with parents are lasting ones. However these ties must change in character so that the man’s full commitment is now to his wife. And the wife’s commitment is now to her husband. The Lord gave the man this commandment, although the principle applies to both husband and wife, because it is up to the man to establish a new household that he will be responsible for. He can no longer be dependant on his father and mother; he can no longer be under their authority, for now he assumes headship of his own family. The adult must continue to honour his parents and care for them when necessary and assume responsibility for them rather than responsibility to them. (See Matt. 15:3-9 and 15:4-8).

Giving your full commitment to each other as husband and wife means giving other things a lesser priority - your business, your career, your house, even your hobbies, your talents, your interests, or yes, even your church work. Unless you are willing to “leave” everything else, you will never develop the beautiful oneness of relationship that God intended for you.

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, AND SHALL CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE: and they shall be one flesh” (Gen. 2:24)

The Hebrew word for “cleave” is DABAQ. Here are some definitions of DABAQ:
“To cling to, or adhere to, abide fast, cleave fast together, be joined together, keep fast, stick to”.

When we come to the Greek New Testament, the word means to cement together - to stick like glue - or to be welded together so that the two cannot be separated without damage to both.

The husband and wife relationship could also be compared to two pieces of paper that are glued together. If you try to separate two such pieces of paper you tear them both. If you try to separate the husband and the wife, both are hurt - and in the cases where they have children, the children are hurt as well.
God’s plan for you and your partner is a unity that cannot be broken as you obey His commandment, at all costs, to cleave together.

- The wedding ring in the ring finger


“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Gen.2:24-25).